- Ch. 7: Awareness, Clarity and Transformation, Ch. 8: How to Navigate AF Firsts,
- Ch. 9: How to Escape Cultural Programming
“The obstacle is the way”
This week is open to you to explore a situation or belief that holds you back in any aspect. Explore whatever you want – no matter how petty it may seem. Try not to judge or censor your first thoughts.
Reflect:
Awareness:
The specific situation / belief causing issues isā¦.
Clarity:
My thoughts about this areā¦
My feelings about this areā¦
My actions about this have beenā¦
My responsibility in this isā¦
This is important to me becauseā¦
I am afraid ofā¦
I am excited aboutā¦
Transformation:
What I really want isā¦
My next steps areā¦?
3 Comments
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To start us off I can use my belief from childhood that it is wrong to “boast” … this holds me back as an adult, as became a generalised manner where I would not speak up about my knowledge, skills and experience as somehow that felt forbidden. This has led to my missing opportunities and I have tried very hard not to pass this on to my kids.
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Awareness:
The specific situation / belief causing issues isā¦. Alcohol enters my mind frequently when I begin drinking moderately on occasion. Moderation is more work than I anticipated.Clarity:
My thoughts about this areā¦ I thought that if I was able to manage moderation, the alcohol noise in my head would be gone after taking such a long break.
My feelings about this areā¦ Disappointment that even when I’m not actively drinking, thoughts around alcohol and when to drink it enter my mind. I feel mixed emotions towards making a new commitment to be AF.My actions about this have beenā¦ I have tried thinking the opposite of disappointment … I feel relieved… I feel relieved that even when I demonstrate that alcohol has lost its hold over my behavior choices, I feel more peace with abstaining than I feel when I am making decisions around alcohol. Ladder thinking: I prefer peace to decision fatigue vs I won’t drink again.
My responsibility in this isā¦ Accountability/ honesty over the cost/ mental load involved with including alcohol in my lifestyle.
This is important to me becauseā¦My health and self esteem benefit from remaining AF. Also because I prefer to focus my attention and energy on other things.
I am afraid ofā¦Being different and missing out on pleasure. Also afraid of not being free to drink on occasion. I am also afraid of being a “drinker” again.
I am excited aboutā¦the peace of mind and predictability that will return with an AF lifestyle.
Transformation:
What I really want isā¦ To feel at peace with my choices and to be healthy.
My next steps areā¦? 30 days AF.-
The words you use, seem to reflect the heaviness of being caught up with alcohol.
The phrases “able to manage”…”noise in my head” “cost/mental load” fear of ‘missing out” all sound hard work with a feeling of being on the back foot.
In contrast confidence shouts out in “I am excited aboutā¦the peace of mind and predictability that will return with an AF lifestyle.”
Can you expand on how you feel during 30 days AF? How are the sensations and what kind of things keep you motivated and inspired?
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